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5 Ways Nature Can Spark Creativity

5 Ways Nature Can Spark Creativity

Immersing yourself in nature on a regular basis can be such a rewarding experience.

A natural environment allows you to disconnect from the fast-paced and stressful world we live in. If you’re a writer or an artist, it’s easy to become overwhelmed and experience a lack of creative juices when stressed. Dive in to the natural world and explore 5 ways nature can spark creativity.

This is the Biggest Mistake You Can Make on Your Healing Journey

This is the Biggest Mistake You Can Make on Your Healing Journey

When I first told my parents about being molested they took me to a shrink.

This lady was nice, she had candles, spoke softly, had curly hair.

But I never left her office feeling much better than when I went in.


I always left with the same amount of numbness feeling and hurt as before.

I still wasn’t connecting with anyone or feeling especially happy or free.


So when I finally connected with the woman who would teach me to begin freeing myself, I was overjoyed.

I remember leaving her house that day with a sense of calmness, and almost neutrality that I hadn’t felt in years….or perhaps ever.

It was the most powerful thing I had ever experienced on my healing journey thus far, so needless to say I booked more appointments, and over the following two years I would continue to go.

And continue to leave feeling open and connected to the world again.


But during those two years, I began to make the biggest mistake anyone can make on their healing journey…I trusted someone else to completely guide my healing journey.

As a child who suffered abuse, I was desperate to have someone guide me.

It was consolation really, for my lack of strong adult figures, now in my adulthood I was going to rely on someone to take me step by step.

I was so used to relying completely on myself, that it was kind of a relief to give up my life to someone else’s guidance, I wouldn’t have to worry about it.

She would guide me, I thought, to completely heal myself.

But soon, I would learn…

What is The Spiritual and Physical Power of Your Intuition?

What is The Spiritual and Physical Power of Your Intuition?

As human beings we live in a material world.

But within that is a spiritual, universal realm.

We are designed in such a way that allows for our bodies to be vessels for an energy that is carried out as a powerful frequency in this living universe.

This sadly neglected part of ourselves is referred to as our intuition.
 

Whether you understand it or not, you are often using your intuition in one form or another & in all of your experiences!

Even though intuition gets labeled under mystical experiences only, intuition is actually a very practical sense that we use everyday. It is even used within couples and groups.

The #1 Reason Why Your Are Feeling Stuck in Life

The #1 Reason Why Your Are Feeling Stuck in Life

If you’re anything like me, you’ll find yourself at the end of the day wondering how on earth it’s already 8 o’clock.

 

And how on earth the sun is already going down.

And ooohhh baby you’ll feel like, how is it possible that I just passed another day of my life, and I feel like I’m nowhere closer to who I TRULY want to be?

Yes I feel like that too.

And for the longest time I was just kinda floating around.

Watching Netflix, eating cereal for dinner.

Enjoying myself I guess…but truthfully in a sort of numb state.

A state where I wasn’t more connected to my soul’s purpose than, “I guess I’ll get a degree in humanities I mean I sorta like art,”

 

What is a soul purpose? & Do you have one?

3 Reasons Why You Need to Heal Your Emotional Pain

3 Reasons Why You Need to Heal Your Emotional Pain

We all have dreams.

The kind of house we want. The kind of relationships we want. The kind of footprint we leave on this earth.

But often, we are trapped in fear of really manifesting what we want.

Why?

Because we are trapped in the shame, fear, anger, and numbness from our pasts.

 

What would it mean to you to be able to live your life exactly as you want to live it?

Where would you be going? Travelling the world? Visiting old friends?

What would you be doing? Helping others? Building a business?

I want you to take a moment right now. Yes right now…shut your eyes…take a deep breath…and give your mind 30 seconds of focused attention on what your dream life would look like. You can start from waking up in the morning. Ok….ready? GO!

 

How was that?

What did you see?

And the final and most important question….why don’t you have it yet?

Sexy Halloween Costumes & Self-Esteem: A Temporary Fix

Sexy Halloween Costumes & Self-Esteem: A Temporary Fix

Sexy Halloween Costumes & Self-Esteem:

Self-Esteem & Slutty Halloween Costumes

Women are told from a young age, that their worth is equal to their beauty.

“You look so pretty,”

“I hate that actress, she’s so ugly,”

“You’re the hottest girl in school,”

“You’re a butter face,”

Recently I saw a male youtuber talking about how absurd it was that women could draw perfect eyebrows on their face, but can’t properly cook chicken.

His words struck me.

We are moving away from traditional feminism. You know the...

Back to School: How to Choose a College Major Using Your Intuition

Back to School: How to Choose a College Major Using Your Intuition

You have a purpose on this earth.

Yes, you.

We all do. And they are all unique.

And they are all found deep within our hearts.

Past what our parents say, past what our friends are doing, past what we think we SHOULD study, deep in our hearts…is the answer to our question.

What should I major in?

A Review of "The Body Keeps the Score" by Bessel Van Der Kolk

A Review of "The Body Keeps the Score" by Bessel Van Der Kolk

Trauma affects many people throughout their lives.

And it isn’t only in refugee camps or battle fields.

It can be found in the home.

Physical Abuse

Sexual Abuse

Child Abuse

Mental Abuse

Absent Parents

Or even life-threatening accidents.

Trauma comes in many forms.

And sometimes it even comes from watching a loved-one suffer.

Like watching mommy being beaten.

Many of us have suffered traumas over the course of our lives. And many of us live in denial. The pain of the event is too great to imagine…so we shut it out…pretend like everything is ok.

“It takes tremendous energy to...READ MORE

A Review of In an Unspoken Voice by Peter Levine

A Review of In an Unspoken Voice by Peter Levine

If you're interested in trauma and PTSD....

This is the book for you.

This book is the complete guide to trauma, and somatic experiencing.

If you’re wondering what somatic experiencing is….

It’s a technique to allow you to release trauma.

See when we are in a fight or flight situation, and we can do neither…we have a secret third option: freeze.

And when we freeze (such as during rape or sexual abuse) the large amounts of energy summoned for the fight or flight response are stored inside the body.

Which leads to all kinds of problems.

This is the therapy that changed my life.

See I had been to many therapists before, but I was still stuck feeling miserable, lonely, and numb.

Stop Generational Trauma & Abuse Now! Seriously, you reading this, break out of it! Be free!

Stop Generational Trauma & Abuse Now! Seriously, you reading this, break out of it! Be free!

All Anger is Self-Directed 

by Catalina Wiles

This is what my therapist said to me in response to saying I was angry with my father.

I was angry because I felt he never connected with me emotionally.

"But all anger is self-directed," she repeated.

This was the moment that I...begrudgingly...realized why I was truly angry.

Deep in my heart I was angry at myself.

I should have done more to reach out to my father. Break that impermeable wall and make a connection. But a child does not always understand this concept. All a child understands is that nobody in my life is interested in what I am feeling.

Nobody cares about my experience. They just want me to be a good little boy or girl. And they willing to hit me if they don’t get what they want, like my father hit...

How to Free Your Heart from Deep Emotional Pain

How to Free Your Heart from Deep Emotional Pain

Ah...the heart...

It’s what drives us gives us energy and hope, connects us to the world, gives our life purpose.

But when your heart has been shut down...maybe repeatedly...you begin to lose trust. And the world becomes a scary and threatening place.

We cut ourselves off from each other...fabricate separation….the mine and the yours.

Some of us have good reason.

Most of us have suffered trauma in our lives...sexual abuse, rape, physical abuse, neglect, medical intervention, life threatening injuries, car accidents...and the list goes on. We build emotional pain!

So we become fearful to protect ourselves from the world.

And anxiety and depression show up.

Now the heart is a REALLY big topic.

So I’m going to break it down into some parts, the parts I’ll call

What is Trauma? This is What You Need to Know to Heal

What is Trauma? This is What You Need to Know to Heal

Maybe you've heard of PTSD.

Most likely connected with soldiers returning from war.

But did you know that PTSD can be caused by other traumas?

Did you know that an unresolved trauma can cause depression, anxiety, and hopelessness?

Did you know that trauma can leave victims feeling completely out of control?

What is trauma?

Trauma is any incident in which you (the victim) feels completely out of...

Detraumatization: For the First Time Your Breakthrough from Emotional Pain

Detraumatization: For the First Time Your Breakthrough from Emotional Pain

This is not an easy post to write.

In fact, it's terrifying.

But it's time to share my story, to help others like me.

I suffered many traumas before I turned 18. Traumas that would leave permanent scars.

Some people get trust funds, and others get a deep sense of mistrust with the world. I was of the latter group.

My first trauma happened when I was six or seven years old. I was molested by my uncle.

I was trapped.

Physically and mentally trapped. And I could not move. Nor did I understand what was happening to me. 

Traumatic events like these teach the mind to feel trapped and afraid in other, normal situations.

Fast forward 15 years and I can't be in large crowds, I can barely leave the house, and I have debilitating anxiety.

This sexual abuse was not the only traumatic event that I survived, but it's effect was lasting.

I was stuck in an eternal limbo. Never being able to complete the chain of my fight or flight reactions. In some cases doctor's call this PTSD.

The Good Part: Healing from PTSD and CPTSD

Why I started a new blog

Why I started a new blog

Do you ever dread going to work?

Do you ever dread working on your blog?

I dreaded both.

The blog part started about 7 months ago. You see, I decided to start a blog to teach people English. The problem? I don't like teaching English.

It's hard to imagine what thinking process led me to start that blog. Well actually it's not.

I live in Spain. And...