self care

This is the Biggest Mistake You Can Make on Your Healing Journey

This is the Biggest Mistake You Can Make on Your Healing Journey

When I first told my parents about being molested they took me to a shrink.

This lady was nice, she had candles, spoke softly, had curly hair.

But I never left her office feeling much better than when I went in.


I always left with the same amount of numbness feeling and hurt as before.

I still wasn’t connecting with anyone or feeling especially happy or free.


So when I finally connected with the woman who would teach me to begin freeing myself, I was overjoyed.

I remember leaving her house that day with a sense of calmness, and almost neutrality that I hadn’t felt in years….or perhaps ever.

It was the most powerful thing I had ever experienced on my healing journey thus far, so needless to say I booked more appointments, and over the following two years I would continue to go.

And continue to leave feeling open and connected to the world again.


But during those two years, I began to make the biggest mistake anyone can make on their healing journey…I trusted someone else to completely guide my healing journey.

As a child who suffered abuse, I was desperate to have someone guide me.

It was consolation really, for my lack of strong adult figures, now in my adulthood I was going to rely on someone to take me step by step.

I was so used to relying completely on myself, that it was kind of a relief to give up my life to someone else’s guidance, I wouldn’t have to worry about it.

She would guide me, I thought, to completely heal myself.

But soon, I would learn…

30-Day Self-Care Challenge

30-Day Self-Care Challenge

Welcome to the 30 self-care challenge!

 

If you’re like me...self-care doesn’t come easily.

 

Helping & taking care of others does come easily.

 

But we reach a point where we no longer have anything to give.

 

We feel burnt out, overwhelmed, and like we just need to sit in a dark room alone.

 

Self-care isn’t exactly easy. At least at first. Which is why I developed this 30-day self-care challenge.

 

To help people like me, get on track with their self-care.

 

Because the more you have, the more you can give!

 

Here is your official list for the 30-day challenge.

Free Printables: Start New Habits With Your Personal 4 Week Health Tracker

Free Printables: Start New Habits With Your Personal 4 Week Health Tracker

We live in a world that makes money off of us.

Especially if things go wrong with our health.

Health care is extremely expensive!

There are hundreds of thousands of medicines on the market in the U.S. alone.

Plus hospital and doctor visits.

All to fix our broken health.

But the catch is….our broken health comes from the things that we also buy from big companies.

Like fast food, processed food, television, cars, beauty products, and even household cleaning products.

We live in a capitalist world.

Which means that people gain from our needs.

They are looking out for their profits. But who is looking out for us?

And they can make us need just about anything.

We’re all stuck in a vicious cycle….of buying things that are bad for our health, and then paying a bunch of money to fix our health!

It’s time you took your health into your own hands.

Break free from this cycle.

And start to live your life on your own terms.

How to Find Your Unique Self Care Style

How to Find Your Unique Self Care Style

I remember the first time I read an article about self care.

I was like….”Is this a thing?”

Growing up nobody ever mentioned “self-care.”

It just didn’t exist.

But it turns out I had been practicing self-care all along…

Just in my own way.

And I didn’t even realize it.

A Review of "The Body Keeps the Score" by Bessel Van Der Kolk

A Review of "The Body Keeps the Score" by Bessel Van Der Kolk

Trauma affects many people throughout their lives.

And it isn’t only in refugee camps or battle fields.

It can be found in the home.

Physical Abuse

Sexual Abuse

Child Abuse

Mental Abuse

Absent Parents

Or even life-threatening accidents.

Trauma comes in many forms.

And sometimes it even comes from watching a loved-one suffer.

Like watching mommy being beaten.

Many of us have suffered traumas over the course of our lives. And many of us live in denial. The pain of the event is too great to imagine…so we shut it out…pretend like everything is ok.

“It takes tremendous energy to...READ MORE

A Review of In an Unspoken Voice by Peter Levine

A Review of In an Unspoken Voice by Peter Levine

If you're interested in trauma and PTSD....

This is the book for you.

This book is the complete guide to trauma, and somatic experiencing.

If you’re wondering what somatic experiencing is….

It’s a technique to allow you to release trauma.

See when we are in a fight or flight situation, and we can do neither…we have a secret third option: freeze.

And when we freeze (such as during rape or sexual abuse) the large amounts of energy summoned for the fight or flight response are stored inside the body.

Which leads to all kinds of problems.

This is the therapy that changed my life.

See I had been to many therapists before, but I was still stuck feeling miserable, lonely, and numb.

put your oxygen mask on first: the how and why of self-care

put your oxygen mask on first: the how and why of self-care

If you're anything like me your schedule looks a bit like this:

 

Wake-up, walk the dog, give the kids breakfast, take the kids to school, go to work, buy groceries, walk the dog again, make dinner, clean the house, put the kids to bed, and maybe...just maybe have ten minutes to yourself.

 

Ok I don't really have kids.

 

But can you find the pattern?

 

Most of us dedicate our lives to taking care of and helping others. 

 

When what we really need is self-care.