mental health

This is the Biggest Mistake You Can Make on Your Healing Journey

This is the Biggest Mistake You Can Make on Your Healing Journey

When I first told my parents about being molested they took me to a shrink.

This lady was nice, she had candles, spoke softly, had curly hair.

But I never left her office feeling much better than when I went in.


I always left with the same amount of numbness feeling and hurt as before.

I still wasn’t connecting with anyone or feeling especially happy or free.


So when I finally connected with the woman who would teach me to begin freeing myself, I was overjoyed.

I remember leaving her house that day with a sense of calmness, and almost neutrality that I hadn’t felt in years….or perhaps ever.

It was the most powerful thing I had ever experienced on my healing journey thus far, so needless to say I booked more appointments, and over the following two years I would continue to go.

And continue to leave feeling open and connected to the world again.


But during those two years, I began to make the biggest mistake anyone can make on their healing journey…I trusted someone else to completely guide my healing journey.

As a child who suffered abuse, I was desperate to have someone guide me.

It was consolation really, for my lack of strong adult figures, now in my adulthood I was going to rely on someone to take me step by step.

I was so used to relying completely on myself, that it was kind of a relief to give up my life to someone else’s guidance, I wouldn’t have to worry about it.

She would guide me, I thought, to completely heal myself.

But soon, I would learn…

Back to School: How to Choose a College Major Using Your Intuition

Back to School: How to Choose a College Major Using Your Intuition

You have a purpose on this earth.

Yes, you.

We all do. And they are all unique.

And they are all found deep within our hearts.

Past what our parents say, past what our friends are doing, past what we think we SHOULD study, deep in our hearts…is the answer to our question.

What should I major in?

A Review of "The Body Keeps the Score" by Bessel Van Der Kolk

A Review of "The Body Keeps the Score" by Bessel Van Der Kolk

Trauma affects many people throughout their lives.

And it isn’t only in refugee camps or battle fields.

It can be found in the home.

Physical Abuse

Sexual Abuse

Child Abuse

Mental Abuse

Absent Parents

Or even life-threatening accidents.

Trauma comes in many forms.

And sometimes it even comes from watching a loved-one suffer.

Like watching mommy being beaten.

Many of us have suffered traumas over the course of our lives. And many of us live in denial. The pain of the event is too great to imagine…so we shut it out…pretend like everything is ok.

“It takes tremendous energy to...READ MORE

A Review of In an Unspoken Voice by Peter Levine

A Review of In an Unspoken Voice by Peter Levine

If you're interested in trauma and PTSD....

This is the book for you.

This book is the complete guide to trauma, and somatic experiencing.

If you’re wondering what somatic experiencing is….

It’s a technique to allow you to release trauma.

See when we are in a fight or flight situation, and we can do neither…we have a secret third option: freeze.

And when we freeze (such as during rape or sexual abuse) the large amounts of energy summoned for the fight or flight response are stored inside the body.

Which leads to all kinds of problems.

This is the therapy that changed my life.

See I had been to many therapists before, but I was still stuck feeling miserable, lonely, and numb.