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This is the Biggest Mistake You Can Make on Your Healing Journey

This is the Biggest Mistake You Can Make on Your Healing Journey

When I first told my parents about being molested they took me to a shrink.

This lady was nice, she had candles, spoke softly, had curly hair.

But I never left her office feeling much better than when I went in.


I always left with the same amount of numbness feeling and hurt as before.

I still wasn’t connecting with anyone or feeling especially happy or free.


So when I finally connected with the woman who would teach me to begin freeing myself, I was overjoyed.

I remember leaving her house that day with a sense of calmness, and almost neutrality that I hadn’t felt in years….or perhaps ever.

It was the most powerful thing I had ever experienced on my healing journey thus far, so needless to say I booked more appointments, and over the following two years I would continue to go.

And continue to leave feeling open and connected to the world again.


But during those two years, I began to make the biggest mistake anyone can make on their healing journey…I trusted someone else to completely guide my healing journey.

As a child who suffered abuse, I was desperate to have someone guide me.

It was consolation really, for my lack of strong adult figures, now in my adulthood I was going to rely on someone to take me step by step.

I was so used to relying completely on myself, that it was kind of a relief to give up my life to someone else’s guidance, I wouldn’t have to worry about it.

She would guide me, I thought, to completely heal myself.

But soon, I would learn…

How to Find Your Unique Self Care Style

How to Find Your Unique Self Care Style

I remember the first time I read an article about self care.

I was like….”Is this a thing?”

Growing up nobody ever mentioned “self-care.”

It just didn’t exist.

But it turns out I had been practicing self-care all along…

Just in my own way.

And I didn’t even realize it.