emotional abuse

3 Reasons Why You Need to Heal Your Emotional Pain

3 Reasons Why You Need to Heal Your Emotional Pain

We all have dreams.

The kind of house we want. The kind of relationships we want. The kind of footprint we leave on this earth.

But often, we are trapped in fear of really manifesting what we want.

Why?

Because we are trapped in the shame, fear, anger, and numbness from our pasts.

 

What would it mean to you to be able to live your life exactly as you want to live it?

Where would you be going? Travelling the world? Visiting old friends?

What would you be doing? Helping others? Building a business?

I want you to take a moment right now. Yes right now…shut your eyes…take a deep breath…and give your mind 30 seconds of focused attention on what your dream life would look like. You can start from waking up in the morning. Ok….ready? GO!

 

How was that?

What did you see?

And the final and most important question….why don’t you have it yet?

A Review of "The Body Keeps the Score" by Bessel Van Der Kolk

A Review of "The Body Keeps the Score" by Bessel Van Der Kolk

Trauma affects many people throughout their lives.

And it isn’t only in refugee camps or battle fields.

It can be found in the home.

Physical Abuse

Sexual Abuse

Child Abuse

Mental Abuse

Absent Parents

Or even life-threatening accidents.

Trauma comes in many forms.

And sometimes it even comes from watching a loved-one suffer.

Like watching mommy being beaten.

Many of us have suffered traumas over the course of our lives. And many of us live in denial. The pain of the event is too great to imagine…so we shut it out…pretend like everything is ok.

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Stop Generational Trauma & Abuse Now! Seriously, you reading this, break out of it! Be free!

Stop Generational Trauma & Abuse Now! Seriously, you reading this, break out of it! Be free!

All Anger is Self-Directed 

by Catalina Wiles

This is what my therapist said to me in response to saying I was angry with my father.

I was angry because I felt he never connected with me emotionally.

"But all anger is self-directed," she repeated.

This was the moment that I...begrudgingly...realized why I was truly angry.

Deep in my heart I was angry at myself.

I should have done more to reach out to my father. Break that impermeable wall and make a connection. But a child does not always understand this concept. All a child understands is that nobody in my life is interested in what I am feeling.

Nobody cares about my experience. They just want me to be a good little boy or girl. And they willing to hit me if they don’t get what they want, like my father hit...

How to Free Your Heart from Deep Emotional Pain

How to Free Your Heart from Deep Emotional Pain

Ah...the heart...

It’s what drives us gives us energy and hope, connects us to the world, gives our life purpose.

But when your heart has been shut down...maybe repeatedly...you begin to lose trust. And the world becomes a scary and threatening place.

We cut ourselves off from each other...fabricate separation….the mine and the yours.

Some of us have good reason.

Most of us have suffered trauma in our lives...sexual abuse, rape, physical abuse, neglect, medical intervention, life threatening injuries, car accidents...and the list goes on. We build emotional pain!

So we become fearful to protect ourselves from the world.

And anxiety and depression show up.

Now the heart is a REALLY big topic.

So I’m going to break it down into some parts, the parts I’ll call

Detraumatization: For the First Time Your Breakthrough from Emotional Pain

Detraumatization: For the First Time Your Breakthrough from Emotional Pain

This is not an easy post to write.

In fact, it's terrifying.

But it's time to share my story, to help others like me.

I suffered many traumas before I turned 18. Traumas that would leave permanent scars.

Some people get trust funds, and others get a deep sense of mistrust with the world. I was of the latter group.

My first trauma happened when I was six or seven years old. I was molested by my uncle.

I was trapped.

Physically and mentally trapped. And I could not move. Nor did I understand what was happening to me. 

Traumatic events like these teach the mind to feel trapped and afraid in other, normal situations.

Fast forward 15 years and I can't be in large crowds, I can barely leave the house, and I have debilitating anxiety.

This sexual abuse was not the only traumatic event that I survived, but it's effect was lasting.

I was stuck in an eternal limbo. Never being able to complete the chain of my fight or flight reactions. In some cases doctor's call this PTSD.

The Good Part: Healing from PTSD and CPTSD