All Anger is Self-Directed
by Catalina Wiles
This is what my therapist said to me in response to saying I was angry with my father.
I was angry because I felt he never connected with me emotionally.
"But all anger is self-directed," she repeated.
This was the moment that I...begrudgingly...realized why I was truly angry.
Deep in my heart I was angry at myself.
I should have done more to reach out to my father. Break that impermeable wall and make a connection. But a child does not always understand this concept. All a child understands is that nobody in my life is interested in what I am feeling.
Nobody cares about my experience. They just want me to be a good little boy or girl. And they willing to hit me if they don’t get what they want, like my father hit...