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there’s a lot to talk about before baby comes!
And a lot to do!
Below is a list of 10 things you can do with your partner, significant other, husband, baby daddy, or idk maybe your neighbor to prepare for a little baby!
Some of ‘em are fun stuff to enjoy your last few, poop-screaming-milk-and-sleepless-nights-free moments, and some are more serious…like important talking points and more.
Ok! Stop talking Simone and let’s get into it…
For related reading see: 20 MOMS SHARE THEIR #1 LABOR & DELIVERY TIP
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fun stuff before baby comes…
#1 Go on a date
This might be the last time for a while that you won’t need a sitter. So grab movie tickets, or go to that fancy restaurant you’ve always wanted to go to.
If you’re on a budget cook a special meal at home, build a fort, and watch TV in it like you’re 10 years old again. Or maybe go on a picnic.
Basically take this time to connect and enjoy each other’s company before three’s a company!
#2 sexy time!
Check with your doctor first, but in most cases of low risk pregnancies sex is OK. So take this time to connect with your partner & jump their bones!
Especially considering, momma’s gonna be out of commission in the bedroom for a few weeks after the birth.
So take advantage of this moment & let’s talk about sex baby!!
#3 Social outings
You and your partner also need to get out of the house & hang with friends. For a couple of reasons:
It reminds both of you that you do have a life outside of the baby and your growing family.
It’s good social self-care to get out and enjoy time with your friends.
Your friends might need a little extra assurance that you won’t be completely abandoning them after baby is born.
#4 Create a new daddy (or mommy) kit
Omg this is so cute!
I first found this idea on Pinterest, and fell in love with it!
Basically you get a basket, and put stuff in it for a new mommy or daddy. Here’s what I’m going to put in mine:
Grooming Stuff like razors, deoderant, special soap, and more.
Earplugs, an eye mask, and some lavender room spray to enhance sleep.
Some snacks & treats for those late nights when it’s mommy’s turn to sleep.
Wipes, kleenex, & a small towel to clean up messes.
A new shirt, to change into when baby throws up. Look at this funny one I found on Etsy.
And tylenol, coffee, and eye drops for when a little medication is needed.
This will make him or her feel special, valued, and let’s face it, this stuff will come in handy!
For sure your partner will appreciate it!
Let’s face it, when you’ve got the baby, it’s gonna be much more of a hassle to travel!
So get one last hurrah in before baby comes, and you’ll thank me that you do.
Some things to consider when planning…
The best time to go is late second, early third trimester.
Try to stay close enough to home that you can get to an English-speaking doctor if you need to & where your insurance is valid.
Book in a lot of relaxation, like a spa trip, a nice dinner, and don’t feel bad if you’re not really that keen on leaving the hotel, or the swimming pool.
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the more serious side of preparing for baby
Firstly, you do need to have a labor and delivery, or birth plan for yourself.
And you should go over that plan with your partner before the big day. BUT, you should also talk out, and write down some stuff that your partner can/will do during labor & delivery.
Here are some ideas of what you might want to include in this planning sesh:
What will your partner be doing?
How can your partner communicate when she/he needs a break?
Will you be filming? Who’s responsibility is that?
Does your partner want to cut the chord?
Does your partner want skin to skin contact?
Will your partner feel comfortable advocating for your birth plan? How can he/she verbalize what YOU need to the staff, when you can’t?
Who is going to be allowed into the labor & delivery room?
How can you partner assist you? You might think of keywords you can share between you like: Pain, Call Nurses, Massage, or Tired.
Wanna read more about this?? Read: WHY DADDY NEEDS TO MAKE A BIRTH PLAN TOO & HOW TO DO IT
Before your little one arrives it’s definitely worth it, for you can your partner to sit down and discuss what each of your expectations are when it comes to caring for the baby.
This is to avoid score-keeping & resentment once baby does get here.
Here are some things you can discuss:
Late-night feedings, who wakes up when? Some ideas are every other time, or shift mommy from 9-2 and daddy from 3-9.
Diaper Changes? It’s easy to fall into the, “well I did it last time,” so just make a plan. Again you can go in shifts, or when daddy’s home from work, or mommy gets the mornings etc.
Baths & Putting Baby to Sleep? It might be easy to assume that you’ll just know, or even that you’ll do everything together, and you might want to at first. But then it’s likely that you’ll start needing breaks so it helps to know who gets what bath & who puts baby to sleep.
Picking & Dropping off to Daycare? Who gets this responsibility? How can you split it up so it’s fair?
Other Household Chores? Who will be cooking & cleaning the house? What can your partner expect while you’re in postpartum recovery?
This plan can always change, but sitting down, talking it out, and even writing it down will help you both go in with a clear idea of what to expect!
You can read more about this here: AVOID DIAPER-CHANGING WARS: CREATE A PLAN FOR BABY-RELATED CHORES
#8 Have him/her pack a hospital bag too
Hospital bags are necessary for your partner as well! It doesn’t have to be as elaborate but a few comforts will go a long way.
Here are some ideas to get them to pack in their bag:
A change of clothes including fresh socks, underwear, & a shirt. Maybe even a pair of pijamas as well.
Some basic toiletries such as a razor, mouthwash, a toothbrush, & more.
Snacks for when their blood sugar drops.
Entertainment (if there’s time) such as a tablet or book.
Change for the parking meters & more.
For related reading see: 7 BRAVE MOMMAS SHARE THEIR STORIES OF ANXIETY, DEPRESSION, & MENTAL HEALTH DURING PREGNANCY
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#9 create a social media plan
Ever heard of the word sharenting?? It’s like share & parenting smashed together and it refers to the way people haphazardly share pics of their adorable little ones online.
To be clear, I’m not really against this…I mean apart from the serious risks of sharing important info like your address or the child’s school online…I didn’t really see the harm!
But my husband was VERY against sharing any pictures of our little ones online. We got into a little bit of a spat about this subject, so I’d thought I’d spare you the argument.
Sit down and write out what you think of social media sharing before baby is born…
In the end my hubby and I came to an agreement, which made him feel better about sharing the occasional picture online, and me a lot more aware of the potential dangers, embarassments, & security issues of sharing too much online.
#10 Make a parenting choices plan
It might be easy to assume that your partner wants all the same things that you do for your kids. But I promise you you’ll be wrong.
And there were some things that really surprised me when I had this discussion with my hubby, like the social media thing that he was just totally against.
Here are some things you should discuss about your parenting philosophies before baby comes:
Bed-sharing or co-sleeping
Parenting Styles (attachment)
Food & Eating
Punishments & Rewards
Cloth Diapering vs. Disposable Diapering
It’s really worth sitting down and just running through this list of topics. You might be surprised about what your partner thinks.
#11 Make a visitors plan
Chances are family and friends alike will be lining up around the block to oogle at your new little creation.
It’s worth it to sit down with your partner before you start handing out tickets and make a plan for how you guys wanna handle it!
How and when can visitors come? How will you get rid of them if you need to? Who is allowed in and who isn’t (not in a mean way but do you really want to see his co-workers or the bread delivery guy?)?
Again write this all down and the plan could change but at least you have an understanding between you two before this happens!
The next step? Actually communicate this to your friends and family :D
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Tell us in the comments sections below…what did you wish you and your partner talk about before baby came?