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we only get one shot at this
You know the whole life thing. And I’ve seen so many people waste their time thinking that their lives have to be a certain way.
Or that the only way to survive is to stay stuck where you are in life. Like that job is the only way you can make money. Or that person is the only one who will make you happy.
The truth is, that the big changes that we secretly want, are 100% possible.
They lie just beyond 3 super easy to comprehend, yet slightly harder to make happen concepts:
The Subconscious Mind
Today, in this article, I’m gonna walk you through these three concepts so you can ultimately make the big changes you want to make in your life.
Like, where is your career heading? Are you in a job because it feels safe?
What about those talents you’ve had since birth, that you’ve never really developed? A book you want to write? A song you want to sing?
It’s all possible, it just takes a lot of determination. Notice I didn’t say “a little bit” I said a lot, because that’s what it takes.
For related reading see: HOW TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE USING THE POWER OF YOUR HABITS
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There are two steps to making your goals the right way.
Write down your goals (make em S.M.A.R.T.)
Reverse engineer your goals.
WRITE DOWN YOUR GOALS
To begin with you need to simply write down your goals.
This can be done anywhere you like to write things down, but preferably somewhere you can easily find again and again.
To make goals S.M.A.R.T. means to make them:
S: Specific — We’re not poets with our goals, we’re scientists, not “I want to write a book” but “I want to write a non-fiction book about self-development”
M: Measurable — Think measurements my loves, not “I want to get richer” but “I want to earn 10,000$”
A: Attainable — I like this item and I don’t. Usually I try to make my goals “realistic” but them push them a little bit further.
R: Relevant — This one is a bit obvious, but basically make sure your goals actually line up with what you want.
T: Time-Based — Which means put a deadline on your goal.
Make sure you have all of these components and you can consider your goal “written down.”
2. REVERSE ENGINEER YOUR GOALS
Once your goal is properly written down. The next step is to reverse engineer your goal.
To do this you need to break your goal down based on the time you’ve given yourself to complete it.
Let’s say Tina wants to write a non-fiction book about yoga. And she wants to get it published by the end of the year.
List out the steps it will take for you to reach your goal.
In this case Tina does a little research and finds out the basic steps to writing a book:
actually writing the book
editing the book
getting feedback about the book
building the audience for her book
writing a query letter
sending the query letter out
Great now she knows she’s got 6 things to do this year to make her goal come true. So she moves onto the next step…
2. Create a schedule to reach your goal.
Tina figures out how long she needs for each task, then writes that plan down. The first 3 months of the year are dedicated to writing the book, etc.
3. Break the goal down into daily & weekly habits.
Awesome possum, Tina is on a roll! She now breaks down those first 3 months into weeks, as in “finish chapter 12 this week.”
Then she breaks that down into days, for example, “write for two hours every day.”
NOW SHE’S READY FOR THE NEXT STAGE OF REACHING HER GOAL….MAKING THE NECESSARY HABIT CHANGES…
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A habit is a very simple thing. It follows a set pattern. It starts with a trigger, moves to a routine or habit, and ends in a reward >>>>>>
A Trigger is an event or situation that cues you to do something.
A Routine is the habit you perform.
A Reward is anything good you get from doing the habit.
Let’s look at the example of eating junk food. Which Polly has a real problem with.
Polly gets home from work, and walks into the kitchen, she’s feeling a little stressed, and sees the bag of Lay’s potato chips (trigger here is arriving home, feeling stressed, and seeing the chips).
Almost without thinking, she walks over to the bag of chips, tears it open and sticks her hand right in (the habit or routine).
By the end she’s feeling temporarily better about herself, the salty chips, and the satisfying crunch have made her feel a little bit better about getting yelled at by her boss this morning (the reward).
That’s how all habits are formed and operate!
Easy to understand right?
Well let’s get to the changing them part.
3. The Subconscious Mind
What is the subconscious mind? why does it matteR?
The subconscious mind & your daily habits go hand in hand. This book, The Power of Habit, goes into a lot of detail about this! Totally worth checking that out. >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
But basically the story goes like this, a man loses his memory like completely, and is still able to function in a new house because of one thing….habit!
He can still get himself a cup of tea, despite the fact that he can’t remember anything for more than 30 seconds. And that’s because his subconscious mind is controlling his actions.
The subconscious mind has one job in life….to protect you.
It started learning how to protect you as soon as you were born. It learnt that being too different from others meant social exclusion, acting up meant that your parents would get angry and punish you, touching a hot stove meant burning yourself.
The subconscious mind is truly amazing, and it does it’s job very, very well. It keeps you really, really protected. So much so that it can be hard to move out of daily life & into the big goals that you have because your subconscious mind will do anything to keep you in a familiar, comfort zone.
Let’s look at an example.
Sally wants to be an author. But she currently works as an accountant. She knows that writing a book, and sending query letters will bring her a published book.
But Sally’s subconscious mind learnt that when she writes honest things, like she did in school, her classmates will call her lame, or her teacher will give her a bad grade.
So even though, deep deep down, she wants to write honestly and share her talents…her subconscious mind is stopping her. It’s “protecting” her from ever reaching her goal of becoming a published author by shooting for close, comfortable things, like bingeing on netflix…until another year has passed and Sally’s book proposal sits gathering dust on a shelf.
The subconscious mind just wants to protect us.
Wants us to live within the confines of how things are because those are the things that the subconscious mind can control and feel safe around.
So to really access change in our lives, we need not only the power of habit, but we need to understand the subconscious mind.
HOW DO YOU USE YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS MIND TO WORK FOR YOU NOT AGAINST YOU?
Now that Sally understands her sunconscious mind a little bit better. She’s resolved to make a few, small changes in her life, to get to that BIG goal of publishing a book.
So she decides to pay attention, write in her journal, and figure out what’s been triggering her fear of stepping out of normalcy and into the career as an author that she’s always wanted.
She figures out that it was this one time that she wrote a deeply personal poem for class, had to share it, and then the rest of her class spent the afternoon laughing at her or ignoring her.
Even subconsciously, she made a vow that day, to blend in more & not be shunned by her peers (don’t underestimate the power of needing to fit in).
So now that she’s uncovered that, she’s able to consciously change the rhetoric of that day. She’s able to teach her subconscious mind that she can fit in, AND be an author by finding a local writer’s group where she can go and share her work in a supportive environment. Or even just call up a friend and ask them to read something of hers.
Boom! You rock Sally, you’re paying attention, and now when you’re ready to build the habit of writing every day, and when you’re ready to start making big moves like sending out query letters, you’ll be able to because your subconscious mind is helping you!
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Tell us in the comments sections below…do you have a big dream? You don’t have to share what it is…just share that you have one…my big dream is in the comments below.