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a guest post by Breanna Park
If you’ve ever been pregnant, or even read up on it, I’m sure you’ve heard of the term baby blues. In fact, I don’t know how many times the doctors and on/gyns warned me about them.
Like many women, however. I just brushed this idea aside. “Oh yeah. That’s nothing!” I said.
Boy was I wrong.
Keep reading for my experience with the baby blues.
What are the baby blues?
Baby blues are feelings that come up after childbirth that aren’t so pleasant. They include:
Anxiety…Oh the anxiety.
What causes the baby blues?
When you think about the miracle our bodies just went through, it’s pretty understandable.
We have all these hormones suddenly dropping when we give birth, we’re exhausted, our downstairs is a little… worse for the wer…
We have this little poop machine that feeds round the clock and as happy as we are, we’re also a mess. So much just happened in a little span and it’s hard.
Like I said, I thought it was nothing. But a few days after Sophia was born, and we got home, I was a blubbering faucet and I couldn’t stop. I remember my husband walking in to her nursery and I was sobbing and he said, “what’s wrong?” And all I could say was “I just can’t stop”
The worst part of the baby blues was feeling anxiety and regret. That night with my husband walking in on me crying, it hit me like a ton of bricks.
I regretted my choice. I loved my baby but I couldn’t do it.
The weight of that realization crushed me. Anxiety would creep in as soon the sun went down. It was awful!
This went on for two full weeks. I was a whirlwind of emotions. Charles Dickens came to mind. The best of times, the worst of times. But during my postpartum checkups I could never admit it was happening. Finally I admitted it to my friend who recently had a baby before me and she said she had the exact same feelings!
It wasn’t until then that I figured out 80% of women have the baby blues! It’s just that so many women are embarrassed to talk about it.
How to survive the baby blues
Tell your doctor how you feel. They know what’s normal and what isn’t. If you ever feel like hurting yourself or your baby you need to call immediately.
Reach Out to Someone
Reach out to your spouse, or friend, therapist, whoever. Knowing you aren’t alone helps so much.
Sleep when you can. I still think “sleep when the baby sleeps” is a myth so ask someone to come take the baby while you nap.
Get Enough Calories
You won’t want to eat, but force yourself to.
Hydrate, hydrate, hydrate!
Drink as much water as you can.
Look at the big picture
Remember these feelings will go away.
Get a Change of scenery
Try and go for a walk or a drive, just get out in the fresh air if it’s possible.
Practice self care. Take a shower, light some candles, read, do what relaxes you.
For related reading see: HOW TO CREATE A POSTPARTUM CARE BASKET + PADSICLES
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Baby blues vs. postpartum depression
Usually the blues lasts up to two weeks. If it goes past that or gets worse, if you feel hopeless you may be suffering from postpartum depression. If you think you might be, see your doctor ASAP. It is something serious that needs to be dealt with!
The baby blues are no joke. They weren’t fun. But they are over thankfully pretty quick, and you’re left with so much happiness from your little baby. You can do it. You got this mama!
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…works as a job coach for adults with autism during the day, as well as teaching as an ESL teacher. She is a mommy blogger in her free time at messybunsandmomjeans.com, and a mom to a 6 month old baby girl.