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i’m not really sure why these are big secrets…
I mean you’d think people would be sharing about this more often!
But sometimes I think as humans, and especially as women, we like to suffer in silence!
Maybe sometimes it’s a fear that others aren’t going through what we’re going through…or maybe that they’ll judge us for our experiences…so I' decided to sit down and film/write this out for you mommas to be.
I wish someone had talked about these big changes so I could have expected them, and so now I’m taking you under my wing young grasshopper…or something like that anyway and sharing 10 things nobody told me about pregnancy.
Stuff I learned about the hard way :D.
0:25 Morning Sickness (It get's really bad) 2:08 PAIN, PAIN, & more PAIN 2:50 Anxiety, depression, & mental health 3:32 Physical Changes (itchy nipples anyone??) 3:50 You'll hate being pregnant 4:55 Social Changes (not everyone loves babies?? what??) 7:00 Personal Space 8:00 Acne 8:30 Digestive Issues 9:15 Emotional Changes
Honestly I was a bit naive going into pregnancy about how horrible, and soul-crushing morning sickness can be.
Often morning sickness is depicted as something funny or cute in movies, and it usually lasts only one scene and then blam magic! She’s 6 months pregnant in the next scene!
It’s not like that at all.
In fact you’ll be waking up sick, lying on the couch all day sick, and going to bed sick.
And it lasts for a long time! Like several weeks….it’s not uncommon to feel down during this period of pregnancy either.
In fact I talk about this (along with a bunch of other mommas) in a post called, 7 MOMS SHARE THEIR STORIES: ANXIETY, DEPRESSION, & MENTAL HEALTH IN PREGNANCY, if you’ve been feeling this way it’s definitely worth a read!
2. pregnancy is painful
Again the image I got about pregnancy before it happened was mostly from movies, Pinterest, or social media….
And it looked so cute and like so much fun!
What I didn’t expect was the painful, uncomfortable nature of pregnancy.
Here are just some of the “fun” pains I went through during my pregnancy so far:
Round ligament pain
Pain in my hips at night
Pain in my belly from the weight of baby
Pain in my lower back
Pain in my feet from the excess weight
I mean I am aware that people do this more than once…so I’m thinking the baby makes it all worth it :D in the end! :D
3. your mental health changes
Everything from first trimester depression, to anxiety and fears about the future…things change in our mental health.
We suddenly have a whole entire new list of worries about baby, about the future, about our own bodies that didn’t exist for us just a few short months ago.
Not to mention, we’re like a radioactive soup of hormones which change our brains, and can make underlying mental health issues more pronounced!
At least it did for me, and for many mommas!
Always seek help, whether it’s from a firend or loved-one, or a medical professional…you don’t have to suffer in silence…sharing is the best way to begin to heal.
For related reading see: 20 EXPERIENCED MOMS SHARE THEIR #1 LABOR & DELIVERY TIP
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4. Physical Changes
Apart from the pain experienced in pregnancy, there are a lot of phsyical changes your body goes through.
Here’s a list of the interesting physical changes I experienced during pregnancy:
Breasts getting bigger
Out of breath
Restless leg syndrome
Some of these symptoms you might be able to find in a quick google search, so I guess what I’m really saying is expect a lot of random, unexpected symptoms that just show up out of the blue.
You’ll search them, or ask your doctor, and they’ll probably be 100% normal.
Every. single. one. of. them.
5. You might not like being pregnant
This is a hard one for me to talk about because after our miscarriage…the only thing I wanted in the world was to get pregnant.
I was sucked into the TTC world and was absolutely hypnotized by all of the advice, products, and tips and tricks to get pregnant.
I was obsessed!! Not to mention so heart broken about losing a baby.
So you can imagine the shame and guilt I felt when, for the 10th time that day my head was in the toilet, and this little thought would creep up like, I wish I weren’t pregnant.
I just wasn’t sure I could handle it.
I wasn’t sure I could take another day (morning to night) of terrible sickness, and depression that followed it from barely being able to get off of the couch.
As my pregnancy progressed, I came to like being pregnant a lot more, but as we’ve discussed a lot already in this post there are so many changes that are scary, uncomfortable, painful, and just plain terrible in pregnancy.
So yes, it’s normal to sometimes not really like being pregnant.
It doesn’t make you a bad person, or a bad mom. It just means that you’ve reached a point where the stress, pain, worry, anxiety, and discomfort have become too much to handle.
6. social changes
Having a baby (or getting pregnant) was really polarizing in a way I did not expect.
People generally fall into two camps — 1. they don’t really care about your pregnancy and expect everything to be the same and — 2. they are super excited about the prospect of a new little baby and want to be involved as much as possible!
I know there’s nothing wrong with being in either group but I guess I honestly didn’t really expect the first group to exist…haha as naive as that sounds.
I figured everyone in my life would be happy for me, and want to step into this new phase with me…but that wasn’t the case.
In fact, I even lost some friendships because suddenly my life was changing and they weren’t interested in it or even actively disliked it!
I mean, share in the comments below if this happened to you also…but it just surprised me that some people do not give a f*ck about your new life.
On the opposite hand those who have supported us and wanted to share in this new life with us have shown us so much love and support!
Like I’ve been so awed and so grateful for the people who showed up to our baby shower, who ask about the pregnancy, & who are just generally excited and can’t wait to mee our little baby!
It’s been like a catalyst…! And even though we’ve had some rough moments with certain friends…the love and support we’ve received from other friends and family has been so amazing!
7. personal space
When you get pregnant, there seems to be some shift in the way people view you.
I mean your body is no longer only yours…in the sense that you are carrying another huma inside of it…but also in the sense that every Tom, Dick, and Harry seem to think they’re entitled to invade your personal space as well!
You belly is like a magnet for rubbing, your diet choices are a topic of discussion, your weight gets commented on…and like a million other things that make you want to just scream…..BOUNDARIES PEOPLE!
The pregnancy glow!?
My a**, more like the perioral dermatitis & red face acne syndrome of pregnancy!
My acne got pretty bad during pregnancy mostly chalk that up to the hormonal changes but it certainly wasn’t something I really expected or knew how to handle!!
9. Digestive issues
Pretty much from mouth to butt you’re going to have issues.
Firstly your gums get worse during pregnancy and may even bleed, then you’ll likely experience heartburn, slow digestion, vomiting, diarrhea, constipation, hemorriods, and well really anything else you can possibly imagine!
Haha prepare yourself girl…it’s gonna be gross, uncomfortable, and sometimes painful!
10. emotional changes
Since we got pregnant, my husband and I have changed a lot.
In ways that hadn’t really occured to me before!
We’ve changed how we look at our finances, our life goals, how we organize our household, and we’ve even taken a pretty deep look at out relationships and views on the world.
And that’s not even been prompted really…it’s all happened sort of naturally!
I am honestly so proud of both of us and the big changes we’ve made and will continue to make along this journey!
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Tell us in the comments sections below…what is one thing you wish someone told you about pregnancy??